I’m over at Her.meneutics today, talking about stay-at-home moms who hire help. Lazy, spoiled, self-indulgent? Or just choosing the best for themselves, their children, and their homes?
My name is Marie, and I’m a stay-at-home mom with three kids.
And hired help.
Months before the birth of our twins, my husband and I decided we would hire someone to help me care for the kids and manage our home. We knew everyone would be happier for it. I posted a question on a Facebook page set up for twin mothers, asking what hours of the day most moms of a toddler and twins found they would benefit from an extra pair of hands. The overwhelming response? You don’t need help. You can do it all by yourself.
While I think most of the responders meant this as encouragement, I still find this reaction to be unfortunate. It reveals our society’s general lack of acceptance of a stay-at-home mother’s need for help. Stiff upper lip. You must shoulder the burden alone.
We didn’t always treat mothers this way…