Please welcome another wonderful guest blogger, Kayla Wells of Mommy’s Soap Box.
I blame it on the lack of sleep. All of it. The house that looks like Toys R’ Us and Old Navy used my house for dumping grounds. The 3rd cup of coffee in 6 hours. The half eaten chocolate bar I bought at the health food store (therefore it must be full of magical healthy goodness right?!). I blame it and all the over emotional responses, the tears, the soreness…all of it. On lack of sleep.
I have truly always struggled with insomnia. I’ve tried medications – they made me so goofy I couldn’t be responsible for myself. I have tried yoga and Pilates – my butt thanked me for the toning and sleep still evaded. I tried all kinds of “remedies” and nothing really worked so I got in a rhythm and moved on.
And then I had my first child.
Trust me insomniacs…Plain ‘ole insomnia is a nap in a hammock by the beach compared to life with a screaming colicky infant. I literally walked the halls for HOURS at a time in the middle of the night, tears streaming down my face willing my baby to sleep. It didn’t work. She is almost 8 now. She still only sleeps for 8 hours about once a week. In the crazy process of getting her to be 8 years old, my amazing hubby and I had 2 more kids (again, I blame lack of sleep clouding judgment) . They are 4 and 2. They don’t sleep much. And seldom at the same time.
When new moms come to me and are exhausted and asking how long this phase lasts I sigh and simply say “it depends on the kid.” Because it does.
I don’t consider myself to be some expert parent. In fact, I find that term kinda laughable. Every kid is SO different I don’t understand how anyone could be an expert on any kid related subject. BUT, I got 8 hours of sleep once last week. My 2 littlest have been asleep for 20 minutes, and I have been able to eat an artichoke and quinoa without any kid comments or sound affects while writing this little post. So, I am figuring out my own kids. Maybe by the time the youngest is 8 they will all be sleeping. HA! With the sandman style luck we’ve had I probably won’t be able to KEEP them OUT of bed for 8 hours at some point.
If you are reading this and are a new mom… there’s hope. There will be something that works and you will sleep again. In the meantime, you WILL find a way to be a new kind of normal without the sleep. Take a nap. really. just.take.a.nap.
If you are the parent with kids who have all slept through the night from 3 weeks on and take 2 or more 3 hour naps during the day: Congratulations! You have it figured out. For you. And no, I don’t want to hear about the “sleep method” you chose to use that “worked”. Chances are I have already tried it and it didn’t work or I am too tired to try something new anyway.
Just give me a hug and a latte and we’re good.
If you are still in that group without kids and reading this and thinking “Good gravy. I am NEVER having kids.” Let me tell you. It is so worth it. I may not get much sleep between 3 kids, a geriatric dog, and a husband who snores, but, I wouldn’t trade one moment of sleep for the sights and sounds of my loved ones. Not even a moment.
I blame lack of sleep. For every one of these sweet blessings.
New to the blogging world, Kayla Wells, author of Mommy’s Soap Box, is a wife of over 10 years and mother to 3 children and a very old golden retriever. Her passion has always been writing and sharing the thoughts on her heart in a straight forward way. Her inspiration for her blog, and everything else in her life, come through her faith in God and her family.