You guys. We’ve entered the era of parenting filled with surprising and awkward sex questions. What am I supposed to do when my sweet-faced first-born comes precariously close to inquiring about where babies come from?
Direct quotes from my 4-year-old son
“Mom. You used to be pregnant, right? When am I going to be pregnant?”
“Mom. When are my sisters going to get privates like mine?”
Those are the TAME questions. Also, only two of about a million. For Christmas, I gave to him The Biggest Ever Book of Questions & Answers hoping for an end to all the questions about all the things (not just sex questions), instead there has been a significant increase in question asking. #mybad
Soooooo. I need to figure this out, friends.
We have a very curious little fellow, who is very loud and very talkative and very unembarrassed. (P.S. These are all my traits. #mybadagain) These fabulous traits are about to bite me in the butt in the checkout line at Target when he asks a stranger about her uterus. I can feel this on the horizon. I’m getting pit stains thinking about it.
I decided to ward against impending danger with a little research, so below you will find a list of resources I have pulled together for myself (and you) as we navigate this delicate territory.
Books to answer my preschooler’s awkward sex questions:
This looks like an amazing resource from the people behind Intoxicated on Life. Since it’s written for ages 6-10, it may be a little old for preschoolers, but I think it would be a really great resource for ME to know how to talk to my son.
I really like this book series. It’s Biblically based, written for “the Christian family” as it says on the cover. It discusses how God created us, which I think is an important point for us to establish. The text appears simple and age-appropriate for ages 4-6, and the illustrations are perfect.
This is not a biblical book, but it has wonderful age-appropriate information. The book discusses “private parts” and clearly lays out information on reproduction, birth, and the difference between boys and girls with light-hearted, but accurate illustrations.
Part of the “God’s Design for Sex” series, these books are written for Christian families. The Story of Me is for children ages 3-5 and explains how God created their bodies and the proper names for body parts. Before I Was Born is for ages 5-8 and explains in age-appropriate language the basic nature of sexual intercourse between a husband and wife and discusses conception, fetal development, childbirth, and breastfeeding.
Wonderful book for ages 3-7. Not specifically Christian or biblically based, but has adorable illustrations and clear age-appropriate information. All body parts are addressed, not just sex organs and genitalia, driving home the lesson that all body parts are perfectly normal.
A beautiful book written by a police officer to introduce the ideas of privacy and protecting our own bodies. A great resource for parents to begin to broach the subject of sexual abuse with young children in an informative but appropriate way.
This provides probably the gentlest approach to questions about sex that I’ve seen. There are sweet pictures and references to animals and their reproduction. A darling, informative little book.
Articles and information to help you answer awkward sex questions:
Do you have any other resources or ideas? I’ll keep you all updates on how it goes. It’s bound to be a good story.